Are we drawn to "The Bull" because we have no other choice? Or is it age? As young women, do we tend to want the Alpha because we know he's the "man" or is it a just personality defect?

As Alpha women, we achieve what we want, when we want, and how we want! We don't settle for less,and of course, we want the very best of everything! Ladies, if we're working that hard for "something" then there's gotta be a payoff, right? Like Beyonce says, "the shoes on my feet, I bought em!"

That said, do Alpha "Dawgs" or "Playas" somehow fit that mold of attraction? They're cute, they're motivated and most of the time they have the very best of everything to offer.

The Playa comes in many different forms, and I'm sure ladies everywhere have cursed themselves and said, "I'm not dating anyone anymore, guys are just players and I'm sick of it." Or "I date all different types of guys and nothing works out. What's wrong with me?"

What's wrong is that you're probably used to getting everything you want. With hard work and determination the sky's the limit, and the world's an oyster, but when it comes to love and relationships, they just have to happen.

You can't force a person to love you and you can't plan your next boyfriend like an appointment for a pedicure. Although you may think you're dating different types of men, the common thread might just be that "BULL FACTOR". That is, the inaccessible, the emotionally unavailable/wounded, the made-over, and the Odepus Rex-us Playa's. Lets' take a look at what's out there... let's breakdown the playa!

The Inaccessible: Usually some sort of business or professional type, and is too involved with work and friends to make you a priority. You've probably met at a "function," hit it off and had a great three-week courtship, and then somehow you fell off the map.

Why do we like him? He's got priorities, he's got his "sh*t" in order, and he looks great on paper - someone Mom and Dad would approve of. You practically have one foot down the alter!

Why didn't it work out? Breaking his routine for something he's unsure of messes up his mind and ruins everything else - like a trickle effect. Plus, he obviously only had two weeks "vacation" planned.

How to get him: You'd probably have to become his personal assistant.

The Emotionally Unavailable/Wounded: The artist, the Musician, probably the Middle Child. This guy is the guy we want to scoop up and cuddle with and make everything bad go away.

Why do we like him? He embodies our own insecurities and as women, we can relate, and we love his sensitive nature.

Why didn't it work out? We couldn't change him and even if we did, we'd still want that insecure side to shine through because maybe we have our own unresolved issues.

How to get him: You'd probably have to sacrifice you own life's ambitions and be okay with a toxic relationship. You'll become wrapped up in a tumultuous affair that would end up with one of you cheating because you're trying to fulfill emotional needs that should have been addressed with a shrink. No matter who you hop to, other people won't make it better for you; you have to do that for yourself!

The Made-Over: The skinny guy, the nerd, the guy with the really bad acne, or the fat guy who has suddenly become a stud muffin, getting a sh*tloads of attention and lapping it up like a kitten with a dish of milk.

Why do we like him? He has killer a personality, probably because he had to make up for his outer appearance. An all around great guy: Sweet, sensitive, fun, and smart!

Why didn't it work out? Two reasons: One, he probably thinks that in his ugly state you probably wouldn't have given them the time of day and finds you superficial; or two, he is makin' up for lost time and it has nothing to do with you at all.

How to get him: Loyalty. You have to stick around and be the friend so they know that you're true and they can trust you. This will take some time.

The Odepus Rex-us: The hot guy, the leader, the ultimate momma's boy, probably the oldest in the family. Also known as the George Clooney of Playas, this guy screams danger but you still wanna play because you can't help it. He gets in your head and suddenly your legs are spread and you have no idea what happened in between.

Why do we get wrecked? This guy is extremely in tune with his feminine side but is extremely masculine as well; he's probably close to his dad, mom and sister and KNOWS what to say to get to you! He has a plethora of friends because everyone loves him. He always gives the illusion that he's going the extra mile but really that's just his game; he is bold, ballsy, relentless in his pursuits and great in bed... Amen!

Why didn't it work out? You probably fell for the same ol' BULL LOAD that everyone else does. The Odepus looks for a woman to mirror their Mom and their own ambitions - she's gotta be up to par! If you're not smokin' hot, smart, motivated AND easy going, then you're S.O.L, sister!

How to get him: Really, I don't know why I'm still trying. But my guess is you'd have to penetrate this dude's Friends and Family before you get to his heart. He's well protected and for good reason - he'd be the ultimate catch, if ever caught. But you can't be too aggressive either or you'll be dubbed the "Psycho" - we all know how much we love that term.

What's An Alpha Girl To Do?

True, there are nice guys out there, but Alpha girls don't go for nice guys because there's no big payoff in scoring something that was a given to begin with. It's not fun. We love the nice guys for advice, dinner dates, and to make us feel better about ourselves when we are smothered by the BULL, but that's about it.

So next time you're sitting across from a new dude, ask yourself if you're going for Bull or a Big Teddy Bear? Because if you want to cuddle up to someone long term, the Bull will buck you outta bed faster then you can moooo-ve.

These thoughts are my commonsense collections after years of G.D.D. (Guy Defficiancy Disease). Hope it makes you think next time you question yourself -true as it is, you can't hate the playa, you gotta hate the game.