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So I'm terminally single. I mean I think I might have a single disease where I stay single for the rest of my life. I've clinically termed it G.D.D. (Guy Defficiency Disease). People have always told me, "You're young, it'll happen, why are you in such a rush..." . Granted, I was 15 years old when they started saying it, but now at 27. I'm startin' to think maybe there's something really wrong with me. How can it be all the other guys... the common denominator is always me, so what IF it Is me?
I'm almost 28, and I've never been in a functional relationship that has lasted for at least a year!
How can I fix what's wrong if I don't even know what the problem is? My friends seem to think that I don't really want a BF, and I'm just jonesin' because they're all shacked up and I'm sulking as the cheese that stands alone. But quite frankly, I do. I always have. I just get discouraged with the neandrathals that I've dated in the past that didn't get me, or appreciate the stuff I did, so maybe I haven't been putting myself out there as much as I should. And I'm SO tired of saying "I'm happy for you" as each one of my best girlfriends get hooked up with an AMAZING boyfriend. This sucks.
I've gotta get out of this slump!
I was pretty bummed when my old flame got hitched and I found out he danced to our two songs at his wedding. Or at least what I "thought" were our two songs...
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Re: So How Do You Find Yourself?
By mytmouse, July 4, 2008 at 13:28So Stacey,
I'm just a couple years younger than you (25) and am in your exact position. I pine for a loving, caring girlfriend and yet nothing ever comes of it. I've been on PLENTY of dates, trust me. Lots and lots of these girls just slip through my fingers. I really think persistence is key. Making yourself available and willing to fit into other's schedules may help your chances. True love is something that reaches people maybe once or twice in their lives. Both my cousins did not find someone to be happy with/marry until their mid-late 30s so there's plenty of time. I hope all works out for you.
Patrick
Re: So How Do You Find Yourself?
By Jill Clark, May 29, 2008 at 14:44I completely agree with you Bud, but I am one of those friends who have told Stacey all the annoying things she mentioned above ;) the thing is I truly do believe that the right one is just around the corner for Stacey and she just needs to move into a positive space so that she attracts positive relationships into her life...it may sound corny but i am a die hard believer in the power of positive attraction
i also think that realizing that your past flame (who played 'your' songs at his wedding) isn't going to come running back to you is a part of growing up...those scenarios are better left for chick flicks where that sort of stuff happens...besides as much as you paint a rosey picture of you-know-who, he wasn't that great to you, so instead of looking at it as a sad outcome I would focus on the fact that you dodged a bullet by not marrying him...you deserve better then what he gave you, you are an 11 out of 10 and need to realize that so that other people (mainly prince charming) can realize it too!
xo
J
Re: So how do you find yourself?
By Bud Oracle (not verified), May 25, 2008 at 08:42Stacey P,
You are climbing the ladder of maturity as an intelligent woman, becoming introspective as your successful 29 year slice of life requires you to be.
Look at your independence as as measure of success, so far weeding out those men not worthy of you. It is much worse being in a relationship that wasn't meant to be, especially when striving for the rungs on the ladder you are reaching for. Looking at your picture and doing a little mental adjustment, I believe there will be success if you hang in there and don't let your standards cave in just so that you conform with the crowd. Conformity to me is "Zombi-ism" and leads to the cr*p we have today, where everyone pretends/tries to appear happy but few really are. We are the fraudulent Apes. Stay honest to yourself and share your honesty with us in your writings, please.
Welcome to Orato, and I see by your willingness to be up-front in your article and your comment that I will enjoy your contributions. And don't mind me, I am terminally verbose, that being my truth.